When you were younger, what did you envision yourself to be like as a woman? Now, ask yourself if you are fulfilling that vision by becoming HER. It’s okay to not be fulfilling that vision right now, but what’s not okay is not trying. You are a queen and the sooner you realize it, the more you’ll start showing up for yourself.
You couldn’t tell me that I wasn’t a queen EVER. I knew my worth BUT I wasn’t acting like the queen I’d imagined myself to be. I would expect other people to treat me a certain way yet, I wasn’t treating myself the way I wanted others to treat me. How exactly does that work? I learned that you have to set a certain standard for yourself, before you can go around expecting people to treat you a certain way. Set that bar, queen!
Are you wondering where to start? No worries! I am going to provide you with 4 ways you can start showing up for yourself.
1. Start Getting Dressed
I know you might feel comfortable and cozy in your PJs, but it’s time for you to take it to another level. Getting dressed says a lot about your character. Even if you don’t go anywhere and you have a remote job, still get up and get dressed because it not only makes you look good, but you feel great. If you’re just running an errand, get dressed. You never know who you will see out.
I used to be one of those people that stayed in sweats and a t-shirt, never did my hair or makeup because I was just going to the living room to work at my desk. Boy, was I lost. The moment I decided to start getting dressed (even if it was to go in the next room) my whole world changed. I felt good on the outside, but on the inside I felt beautiful, powerful, motivated and productive. Getting dressed changes the game, so girl please get your wardrobe together and throw on some pieces. If your someone that struggles with your wardrobe, watch my closet consultant Aja Narie. She always gets me together.
2. Make A Goal List/Vision Board
Do you know where or what you want to be in life? Many of us have ideas and some of us turn those ideas into plans and then plans into action. Seeing it all beautifully written or mapped out can provide you with clarity and make it easier to understand your purpose and passions. You may have a million things going on in your head, but once you actually write them out it’s easier to attack them. The day after I made my vision board, I got a lot of attention from it and it went viral on social media. I also made my vision board my wallpaper on my phone and desktop wallpaper on my computer. I wanted to see my goals every single day so that I was reminded to keep going daily and that I had things that I needed to achieve. Here is my vision board.
3. Evaluate Relationships
In order to show up for yourself, you have to ensure that the people you surround yourself with fit into your vision. Do these people help or hurt you? Do you feel energized or depleted when they come around? Do they motivate you or discourage you? All of these factors need to be considered when it comes to having a support system. Promote and demote as necessary. Yes, it will hurt if you have to demote, but this is about you and your goals at the end of the day. You can’t let anything or anyone get in the way of that.
4. Stop Procrastinating
“We all know what to do. None of us know how to make ourselves do it”-Mel Robbins
Procrastination dominated my life for a long time. It actually wasn’t until recently when I finally defeated procrastination. I was so lazy when it came down to execution. I can have a head full of the best ideas and thoughts, but when it came down to getting the job done I would fail because I would wait. What was I waiting for? The perfect time. Let me be the one to tell you that there is no such thing as the perfect time. You have to just get up, not think about it and JUST DO IT. Try the 5,4,3,2,1 rule and see how much better you get at not procrastinating.
Now that I’ve given you 4 tips on how you can start showing up for yourself, my homework to you is to START NOW. There is no reason why you should be putting yourself second to anything or anyone. Focus on reaching your highest self. I believe in you.
I had a lot to say and now it’s your turn. I want you to comment down below and tell me in which ways you plan to start showing up for yourself. Also, tell me what areas you struggle with. Talk soon!
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